New aged dating.

Dating has changed over the years. It used to be that a person would ask another person they had interest in out for an event. May it be the basic dinner and a movie, or something else more outside the box and entertaining. From there, they would assess their feelings or interest in one another, and either end the courtship, or continue more into the dating world and getting to know more about each other.

Some people still do it that way, very rarely it seems, but it does happen. But more often now-a-days, it seems more likely that people will meet while drinking, have sex, and if they notice a pattern of having sex with the same person more often, and sometimes exclusively, they are considered “dating”. People really have lost touch of getting to know one another on a mental level, and just couple up purely thru physical and sexual attraction….. and sometimes out of fear of being alone. I’m starting to believe this is one of the causes of unhappy relationships and shorter marriages. People are becoming more impulsive on their mating decision, therefore, they know next to nothing of what the other person is like.

That, in turn, makes the people in the relationship more selfish. Each person basically doing their own thing and what makes them happy without regard of the other person, until they want to “get some ass”. They don’t know enough about the other person to really have a lot in common. At the beginning, both parties may bend a little here or there because they feel that’s what is expected of them and so that the sex continues. But as time goes on, and people reveal their true selves, they get tired of putting up the front, and become discouraged.

And then what? You both are unhappy. Don't want to be near each other, but for some reason, cannot "break it off". Whether it's because you have altered your living conditions so that you cannot afford to leave each other, have kids, or what have you. Then eventually someone (or both) cheats. I happens. They find the grass to be greener, and that hook up is found the same exact way the previous one was, so the cycle continues.

But sometimes, one of the two really want to get to know thier partner. Invest time in the partnership. But unless both are feeling the same way, it ends up being a futile task. And that's when people end up broken hearted. One person is there for the convience of the relationship, and one is there because they truely want the relationship. But I will have to get into that another time.....

I'm just saying. If you are serious about wanting to find someone to be with. Really get to know that person. Learn about them. Take your time. Yes, I know, life is short. But that's the point. It's too short to waste months and years and emotion on the wrong person.